11 Ways To Improve Your Relationship With Your Partner

So, you have met the love of your life, intimacy is on point, but the heated arguments are causing friction and leading to further discussions, does that sound like you? Experts say there are numerous ways you can get your relationship back on track no matter how bad you may think it has become. Healthy relationships depend on the ability to communicate your thoughts effectively; this includes desires, needs and issues. The key is to discover how to express yourself effectively without drowning yourself in the oncoming wave of emotions that can quickly submerge your best efforts.    

• Friendship  

It was found in a study by Prior and Glaser (2006) 65% of children have a secure attachment style while 35% have an insecure attachment style. When these kids grow into adults, they usually face relationship troubles and display signs of emotional highs and lows, obsession and jealousy. No matter your present pattern, the good news is that you can feel more securely attached to your partner by developing a more meaningful and profound friendship with your partner. Start by planning activities together you both will enjoy, make sure to stay updated on our partner’s interests to have an enjoyable time.   

• Don’t Interrupt  

Don’t change the topic or interrupt your partner during discussions. Let them express themselves and wait for your turn. Basically, don’t do to your partner what you wouldn’t want to be done to you.   

• Keep Your Tone in Check  

During heated situations, it is best to maintain your cool and to avoid using hostile and sarcastic tones. An angry tone can make even a non-threatening statement sound like a threat. Remember not to minimize or disregard your partner’s dreams, fears and worries.    

• Appreciate Each Other Daily  

Remember how you appreciated each other often and went the extra mile to be nicer, kinder and more loving towards your partner at the start of your relationship? Well, one of the many secrets of a fulfilling, happy relationship is to continue to appreciate your partner actively. A daily dose of small adorable compliments will not only bring a smile on her face but will also lead to positivity and joy in your heart. If you are not sure where to start, complimenting her looks or thanking him on his dressing are small, but sure ways to get the fire burning.    

• Don’t Forget to Say the Three Golden Words  

Do not rely on notable dates such as Valentine’s Day and anniversaries to express romance and loving feelings. It is vital to show your love verbally and nonverbally for your partner, after all, it is the glue holding relationships together. Even if everything around you is falling apart make it a point to say “I love you.”  

• Don’t Let Anger Distort Reality  

It was discovered in a study by Robinson and Price (1980) that unhappy couples underestimated the significance and occurrence of positive events in their relationships by 50%. Furthermore, in another study conducted by Fincham, Beach and Baucom (1987) found that couples in unstable relationships were more likely to associate negative intentions towards their partner’s behavior. This, however, will not lead to a healthy long-term relationship. If you find it relatable, then try this, the next time you have a negative thought regarding something your partner has done, think of a more neutral explanation. This will help improve your emotional intelligence and how you feel about your partner. Another simple way is to put yourself in their shoes and not judge them so harshly. Finally, remind yourself of the good times you’ve spent together recently. After all, if you focus on the positive, you won’t have time to dwell on the negative.  

• Share Power  

John Gottman’s research indicates there is an 81% chance that a relationship won’t work if the man is not willing to share the power with his partner. It is vital that you consider your leading lady’s opinions, or she will end up feeling unvalued. Cultivate a more compromising attitude, lay back and give your partner some decision-making authority and watch your relationship flourish.  

• Find Common Goals  

Nothing bonds a couple more like common goals. Couples who share a similar vision, dreams and goals tend to have longer-lasting more fulfilling relationships. Having discussions with your partner regarding aspirations and future is important.    

• Understand Anger  

Though it is normal for even the happiest couples to experience rage, when it becomes a recurring habit in a couple’s life it should be treated as a red flag. Sue Johnson, pioneer of emotionally focused therapy states, anger is usually deep-seated emotions such as fear of abandonment and sadness. In retrospect analyse your partner’s emotional outbursts and try to find hidden messages, so you are equipped to respond better.    

• Let Go of Negative Patterns  

Troubled relationships usually have a demand-withdraw pattern. This means one person tends to be more demanding while the other is critical. Douglas Tilley, the founder of emotion-focused therapy, stated that men are mostly the withdrawer since their cardiovascular system is more responsive to stress, hence tuning out your partner is an attempt to avoid uncomfortable sensations. The first step to breaking these negative patterns of conflict is to let your partner know that you are feeling angry now, but since the issue is important to your partner, you would like to discuss it when you both have cooled off.  

• Get Intimate 

No matter your arguments or differences of opinion be sure to set them aside and keep the spark in the bedroom alive. If you are having trouble, try Virility Formula by Herbion Naturals. It contains a potent blend of Tribulus, Velvet Bean, Elephant Vine and Withania Somnifera. This unique combination of herbs increases your desire, drive, sperm count and boosts energy levels for improved performance.